So, in case you didn't notice. My blog has changed. Personally I love the mountain in the background, as well clearness of the raindrops in the forefront.
So let's set up a situation. A girl breaks up with her boyfriend, and you like this girl. What do you do?
Common sense would tell you talk to her, ask her to hang out, and then pursue her. But I am here to tell you, that common sense is wrong, especially if you like the girl. What do I mean? It's simple. No guy should ever be the rebound guy, EVER. Here is what happens when you are the rebound guy... you talk to her, get to know a little more, you take her out, she lets pay you for dinner and a movie, and then she drops the friend card. Let's be honest ladies... after every time you break up with a guy, you want another to fill the void for the time being. Not because you like the guy, but because you just want someone to be there. You play games. It's true, and whether or not you want to admit you do it, it is wrong! Okay, so as the guy, what do you do? You talk to her, get to know her a little, but do not be the rebound guy. I repeat, do not be the rebound guy. If there is another guy, you might think you are trying to beat him, but honestly you should let him win. That way, he is the rebound guy, and when she chews him up and spits him out, you are not the rebound guy, but her boyfriend. It's really that simple! Although the simplicity of the situation is overshadowed by emotions and 'love' the thing is, it's simple.
In light of July 4th being right around the corner, let's talk fireworks. I love fireworks!! I love the loud booms and the many bright colors. That is why July 4th is one of my favorite holidays. Things that involve this wonderful holiday: Friends, Family, Cookouts, Swim parties, and of course Fireworks!!! Those 5 things cannot be beat. I love it and can't wait for next weekend!
June 28, 2010
June 27, 2010
Wheelin' and Dealin'
Let's talk.... 3rd wheel. Is it okay to be a 3rd wheel? Or is it against the rules? Well, here's some insight from my point of view on the situation...
If your friend comes in and says 'hey so and so and I are going out to dinner and then we're going out to a movie,' it is not okay to jump in and say 'hey, I'm coming with.' Seriously, if this happens and you are trying to 3rd wheel, it is absolutely necessary for you to go out and get another friend so you don't have to sit alone all by yourself at night.
If your friend comes in and says 'hey so and so and I are going out to dinner and then we're going out to a movie,' it is perfectly fine for you to say 'alright, sounds fun.' It is only okay to that do once or twice. You would be a good friend if most of the time you said 'no that's alright, you guys go out and have a good time.' Sometimes they will really want you to come, and that's fine, but make sure every time they ask, you don't say yes. At some point, you might want to still go out and find another friend, you know, for the times you say no.
New subject...
Some people have problems. When they like someone, they ask others for advice. Really though, others have no say in what goes on. So, if you're looking for advice, here is mine... Stop asking for advice. When it comes down to it, you should do what you want to do. No one else's opinion should matter. At times, it may be tough to deal with the decision making, but bottom line, you gotta get over it.
Take the time to go out today and put yourself above your competition. Although you may get 'lost' with love and other such things, remember that there is competition everywhere. Don't sit back and ponder what your competitor is doing, get up and go find out. Once you know, beat him/her. Be pro-active, not re-active. If you are reactive then your competitor has you beat and they will be one step ahead of you. It doesn't hurt to go out and figure it out, and then do something to get ahead. Don't lose yourself though, because once you lose yourself, will lose the battle every time!
Until next time... do something that will put you ahead for a change!
If your friend comes in and says 'hey so and so and I are going out to dinner and then we're going out to a movie,' it is not okay to jump in and say 'hey, I'm coming with.' Seriously, if this happens and you are trying to 3rd wheel, it is absolutely necessary for you to go out and get another friend so you don't have to sit alone all by yourself at night.
If your friend comes in and says 'hey so and so and I are going out to dinner and then we're going out to a movie,' it is perfectly fine for you to say 'alright, sounds fun.' It is only okay to that do once or twice. You would be a good friend if most of the time you said 'no that's alright, you guys go out and have a good time.' Sometimes they will really want you to come, and that's fine, but make sure every time they ask, you don't say yes. At some point, you might want to still go out and find another friend, you know, for the times you say no.
New subject...
Some people have problems. When they like someone, they ask others for advice. Really though, others have no say in what goes on. So, if you're looking for advice, here is mine... Stop asking for advice. When it comes down to it, you should do what you want to do. No one else's opinion should matter. At times, it may be tough to deal with the decision making, but bottom line, you gotta get over it.
Take the time to go out today and put yourself above your competition. Although you may get 'lost' with love and other such things, remember that there is competition everywhere. Don't sit back and ponder what your competitor is doing, get up and go find out. Once you know, beat him/her. Be pro-active, not re-active. If you are reactive then your competitor has you beat and they will be one step ahead of you. It doesn't hurt to go out and figure it out, and then do something to get ahead. Don't lose yourself though, because once you lose yourself, will lose the battle every time!
Until next time... do something that will put you ahead for a change!
June 25, 2010
Fearing Peace
Just a quick note here. I know it's been quite some time, but I think it's time to for this post.
First thing is first. I know I have faults, I get that, I do! Just know you have faults too!
I don't know if any of you know this about me, I have a fear. This is my one and only fear! I have a fear of dieing alone. I want this reassurance from someone that can tell me, they will be right by my side when it's my time to go. I don't what brought this about, but it is something I have put a ton of thought into. Maybe some of you who know me on a more personal level, know that I don't like to be alone. For some strange reason, I don't like to go places without someone going with me. Does it hinder me at times? Of course! But, that isn't going to change who I am. It really kind of makes me mad really though, you know the whole needing someone there with me. I don't know why? I have flown on an airplane by myself, but yet when it comes to going shopping, I need someone there with me!
That is one thing, I think, that really is different about me. I feel a need to have someone there. for the whole dieing alone thing, I really hope I get over that one day, because it wouldn't be me to put myself before other people. I would rather die alone so no one grieves over me. Honestly, it's who I am.
Anyone ever wish they could just tell someone their BIG secret, not just who you have a crush on, but your BIG secret? For me personally, I wish that everyday! And no, I'm not gay!
I have recently found out there are few things that put me at complete peace...
1) Thunderstorms- I could sit through thunderstorms everyday and be perfectly fine for the rest of my life. There is something about the sound of the rain mixed with the brightness of lightning and the booms of thunder that really just takes all the thoughts out of my mind. I love it! I would choose a night listening to thunderstorms over a night of going out.
2) Stars- I love looking at the stars. I really don't know why I, or anyone else enjoys that? But, my guess, at least on my part, is the curiosity of the unknown. For me, it's like a child's dream of going up there and exploring, although I really have no aspirations of going into space. Regardless, it's been a long time since I have actually laid down and taken the time to look up at the stars, and that is something I would definitely like to look into in the near future!
3) Lightning Bugs- Seriously, Lightning Bugs? Yes, LIGHTNING BUGS! I drove by this big open field last week and I thought it was one of the coolest things I had seen in a long time. What was it? A bunch of Lightning Bugs flying around and lighting up! It was awesome, until the Thunderstorm came the next day. The power went out in the house so my brother and I were completely bored. The cool part? Lightning Bugs. I looked out the window as the rain had started to die down. I looked into the trees from across the street. Lightning Bugs were hiding in the trees and lighting up. Imagine it being pitch black and see these little specks of flashing light. And I thought that was cool? Yes, until I looked in my backyard. My backyard is basically surrounded by trees. The backyard seemed to be even darker, and the Lightning Bugs were more sufficient. There were so many of those things hiding in the trees lighting up in the pitch black. It might have been the coolest thing I have EVER seen!
4) Baseball Games- At this point in my life, I have decided that going to a Cincinnati Reds game is almost as soothing as it gets. You get great food, a good amount of excitedness, as well as the relaxed time you have been seeking recently. For me, I have decided I could possibly spend every one of my last days on Earth being in a baseball stadium. There is just some type of aura about the baseball stadium that I tend to fall in love with. Don't ask why, but it is something I could do for the rest of my life. Do you think I'll be buying season tickets to the Reds when I am retired? If I am even remotely close to Cincinnati, the answer is a definite yes!
The one thing that really bothers me... how the love I have for sports hasn't carried over to a possible love I have for a girl. I know the whole shindig, there is someone for everyone. Honestly, it gets old. And, now we're back to the whole being alone thing again....
First thing is first. I know I have faults, I get that, I do! Just know you have faults too!
I don't know if any of you know this about me, I have a fear. This is my one and only fear! I have a fear of dieing alone. I want this reassurance from someone that can tell me, they will be right by my side when it's my time to go. I don't what brought this about, but it is something I have put a ton of thought into. Maybe some of you who know me on a more personal level, know that I don't like to be alone. For some strange reason, I don't like to go places without someone going with me. Does it hinder me at times? Of course! But, that isn't going to change who I am. It really kind of makes me mad really though, you know the whole needing someone there with me. I don't know why? I have flown on an airplane by myself, but yet when it comes to going shopping, I need someone there with me!
That is one thing, I think, that really is different about me. I feel a need to have someone there. for the whole dieing alone thing, I really hope I get over that one day, because it wouldn't be me to put myself before other people. I would rather die alone so no one grieves over me. Honestly, it's who I am.
Anyone ever wish they could just tell someone their BIG secret, not just who you have a crush on, but your BIG secret? For me personally, I wish that everyday! And no, I'm not gay!
I have recently found out there are few things that put me at complete peace...
1) Thunderstorms- I could sit through thunderstorms everyday and be perfectly fine for the rest of my life. There is something about the sound of the rain mixed with the brightness of lightning and the booms of thunder that really just takes all the thoughts out of my mind. I love it! I would choose a night listening to thunderstorms over a night of going out.
2) Stars- I love looking at the stars. I really don't know why I, or anyone else enjoys that? But, my guess, at least on my part, is the curiosity of the unknown. For me, it's like a child's dream of going up there and exploring, although I really have no aspirations of going into space. Regardless, it's been a long time since I have actually laid down and taken the time to look up at the stars, and that is something I would definitely like to look into in the near future!
3) Lightning Bugs- Seriously, Lightning Bugs? Yes, LIGHTNING BUGS! I drove by this big open field last week and I thought it was one of the coolest things I had seen in a long time. What was it? A bunch of Lightning Bugs flying around and lighting up! It was awesome, until the Thunderstorm came the next day. The power went out in the house so my brother and I were completely bored. The cool part? Lightning Bugs. I looked out the window as the rain had started to die down. I looked into the trees from across the street. Lightning Bugs were hiding in the trees and lighting up. Imagine it being pitch black and see these little specks of flashing light. And I thought that was cool? Yes, until I looked in my backyard. My backyard is basically surrounded by trees. The backyard seemed to be even darker, and the Lightning Bugs were more sufficient. There were so many of those things hiding in the trees lighting up in the pitch black. It might have been the coolest thing I have EVER seen!
4) Baseball Games- At this point in my life, I have decided that going to a Cincinnati Reds game is almost as soothing as it gets. You get great food, a good amount of excitedness, as well as the relaxed time you have been seeking recently. For me, I have decided I could possibly spend every one of my last days on Earth being in a baseball stadium. There is just some type of aura about the baseball stadium that I tend to fall in love with. Don't ask why, but it is something I could do for the rest of my life. Do you think I'll be buying season tickets to the Reds when I am retired? If I am even remotely close to Cincinnati, the answer is a definite yes!
The one thing that really bothers me... how the love I have for sports hasn't carried over to a possible love I have for a girl. I know the whole shindig, there is someone for everyone. Honestly, it gets old. And, now we're back to the whole being alone thing again....
June 3, 2010
Replay Jr.
Actually, I really have nothing to say about "just" nice guys... The fact is, guys hate to hear they are such a nice guy. What they say is really true, nice guys finish last. Nice guy is a demeaning word when you think about it. To a guy, they never ever want to be called nice. It's like the word cute. Cute is just as bad. Actually cute may be worse. Cute is a one way road to the friend zone, and I think we all know once you get into the friend zone, there is no coming out. It's like the word 'just'. That might be the worst of all. When a girl pulls out 'just,' it's the end of road. When she says just friends, there is no hope for anything more. Does it suck? Yes, very much actually, but sometimes you 'just' have to deal with it. When this happens, you get stuck watching 3 Ninjas all by yourself on a Thursday night...
Now, onto bigger and better things...
Yesterday two things happened in the sports world, actually in the baseball world. An umpire threw away a perfect game. A perfect game is history. It's the greatest thing a pitcher could do throughout his career. Only 19 people have ever thrown a perfect game before, and an ump took away the 20th to ever happen. But, can we really blame the ump? He said he was sure the player was safe, that is until he saw the replay after the game. So, again I ask, can we really blame the ump? Let's not forget that in 2006, the players voted him the second best ump in baseball. Bottom line is, there is no way you can blame the umpire Jim Joyce for making a mistake. Mistakes are made by humans every day! We must blame the system for this one! Or maybe, we should blame Bud Selig. I mean really, he has the power to go back and call him out, but did he, no. Bud Selig is the one and only reason there is no instant replay in Major League Baseball. There needs to be instant replay to correct calls like this one that were missed. I guess that is the only good thing that will eventually come out of this whole debacle!
The one thing that is really too sad is, the misfortune above took away from the retirement of one of the greatest baseball players to walk the planet. He made his swing look so easy, and every kid aspired to him. His swing was smooth, but powerful. By far, he had the greatest swing I have ever seen. No matter what, every time he made contact with the ball, it looked as if it was headed out of the park. After 22 years, he has been ridiculed for leaving the club house early to go on vacation, sleeping in the locker room during a game, and an immense amount of injuries throughout the latter part of his career. If he were healthy the last 10 years he played, he would have no doubt been the best baseball player EVER. His 630 career home runs leaves him with the 5th most of all time. He was the first to wear his baseball cap backwards, and he changed the game of baseball trading cards as well. Personally, I have his rookie card. He was the first person picked in the 1987 MLB draft. Nicknamed "The Kid," during his 22 years, he truly was a kid doing what he loved. I have never seen him on the field not smiling. He will surely be elected on his first-ballot into the Hall of Fame. He made baseball fun, and that is the most important part. Memorable moments include: his amazing defensive catches which he made look so easy, his home run derby win, him and his father hitting back-to-back home runs in 1990, and his 600th home run as a Cincinnati Red. His talent overmatched everyone else's, and it seemed completely natural. He came in as a Seattle Mariner, and he left as a Seattle Mariner. He was their poster child, even when he wasn't a Mariner. Ken Griffey Jr. will be greatly missed in the game of baseball, and it is a shame his retirement seemed to have gone unnoticed! Junior, I have your rookie card, and I have a poster of you. You were my favorite player, and I will miss you in the game of baseball! Thanks for all the memories!
Now, onto bigger and better things...
Yesterday two things happened in the sports world, actually in the baseball world. An umpire threw away a perfect game. A perfect game is history. It's the greatest thing a pitcher could do throughout his career. Only 19 people have ever thrown a perfect game before, and an ump took away the 20th to ever happen. But, can we really blame the ump? He said he was sure the player was safe, that is until he saw the replay after the game. So, again I ask, can we really blame the ump? Let's not forget that in 2006, the players voted him the second best ump in baseball. Bottom line is, there is no way you can blame the umpire Jim Joyce for making a mistake. Mistakes are made by humans every day! We must blame the system for this one! Or maybe, we should blame Bud Selig. I mean really, he has the power to go back and call him out, but did he, no. Bud Selig is the one and only reason there is no instant replay in Major League Baseball. There needs to be instant replay to correct calls like this one that were missed. I guess that is the only good thing that will eventually come out of this whole debacle!
The one thing that is really too sad is, the misfortune above took away from the retirement of one of the greatest baseball players to walk the planet. He made his swing look so easy, and every kid aspired to him. His swing was smooth, but powerful. By far, he had the greatest swing I have ever seen. No matter what, every time he made contact with the ball, it looked as if it was headed out of the park. After 22 years, he has been ridiculed for leaving the club house early to go on vacation, sleeping in the locker room during a game, and an immense amount of injuries throughout the latter part of his career. If he were healthy the last 10 years he played, he would have no doubt been the best baseball player EVER. His 630 career home runs leaves him with the 5th most of all time. He was the first to wear his baseball cap backwards, and he changed the game of baseball trading cards as well. Personally, I have his rookie card. He was the first person picked in the 1987 MLB draft. Nicknamed "The Kid," during his 22 years, he truly was a kid doing what he loved. I have never seen him on the field not smiling. He will surely be elected on his first-ballot into the Hall of Fame. He made baseball fun, and that is the most important part. Memorable moments include: his amazing defensive catches which he made look so easy, his home run derby win, him and his father hitting back-to-back home runs in 1990, and his 600th home run as a Cincinnati Red. His talent overmatched everyone else's, and it seemed completely natural. He came in as a Seattle Mariner, and he left as a Seattle Mariner. He was their poster child, even when he wasn't a Mariner. Ken Griffey Jr. will be greatly missed in the game of baseball, and it is a shame his retirement seemed to have gone unnoticed! Junior, I have your rookie card, and I have a poster of you. You were my favorite player, and I will miss you in the game of baseball! Thanks for all the memories!
May 31, 2010
Cold Competition
First I want to start with something many of you are familiar with: Cold Showers. Whether you like them or not, there is an art to taking a cold shower. Sometimes cold showers are forced, via no hot water, but there are times when it feels good to take a cold shower. Forced showers are never good! Unless, of course you anticipate there being no hot water, so you go outside and work up a sweat. In that case, cold showers can be good, and that kind of falls into the non-forced cold shower. Now, there are times to never ever take a cold shower. One time is in the winter. No matter how hot you think you are, it is never hot enough to combine the cold from outside and the cold from the water trickling down your back. I would also consider one scenario to be a double whammy... that scenario: a forced cold shower in the winter. If this occurs, something is wrong and you need someone to fix something!
An, on the bubble scenario occurs with the wake-up call. Some people respond extremely well to cold water in the morning, I am not one of those people. My showers have to hot! This is why this scenario is on the bubble. Some people like it, others hate it... it's your call!
Now for the non-forced cold showers. These are good, but there is a complete art to having a good shower. For instance, say you are sweating really bad, and you really need a cold shower because you are hot. When you get in the shower, you have to start on hot, and then slowly move colder and colder. Granted you might be hot for the first few minutes, but if you were to turn the cold on right from the start, then you will be so shocked and you won't take a correct shower. For half the shower, you're probably still sweating, but it will be ok, because the colder you get, your body temperature will go down. So, here's the kicker... your shower needs to last at least 10-15 minutes to allow ample time for decreasing body temp. When you find a good cold temperature, keep it there. The water should not be to the point of coldness you are struggling to breath. Find a good temp, and keep it there. Do your cleaning, but don't rush! Everyone is always in a rush nowadays, and when you're taking a shower like this, you cannot rush! Also, the water has to be cold enough to stop your sweating because once you get out of the shower, you don't want to still be sweating. And another thing, the water can't be to the point where it's so cold, you're shivering during and after the shower, because then you cannot enjoy the sacred shower.
Hopefully after reading that, you will be fully prepared for the next time you are either forced, or in need of a cold shower.
DISCLAIMER: If it doesn't work, don't hate on me!
Now for the serious subject...
I talked a little bit about competition in my last post, but I feel competition is such a huge thing, I need to go more in depth. There is good competition, for lack of a better word there is middle competition, and there is bad competition.
We'll start with the good competition. Competition is such a huge part of life! There is competition every where you look. Business is a competition, your sports teams are competitive, and you compete for jobs by going through school and trying to prove you are the best person for a job. These are all good competition! It is perfectly acceptable in each these cases, to go out and prove to others who you are. It's okay to show others you're the best in these situations. Actually, it's more than okay!
Middle competition is good and bad. If you are with your friends, playing a game, no matter what game it is, you can one of two ways... The first, be competitive, but not overly competitive! You can't be the first one to dive for a ball. I repeat: YOU CAN'T BE THE FIRST PERSON TO DIVE FOR A BALL. It just isn't right. If you are the first one to dive, you come off as way too competitive, even if people are laughing, they know you're way too competitive. You also can't get mad. What I like to do now, as I am growing up, is crowd control. I try not to let myself get upset over a silly little game. If I mess up, I say I'm sorry so my teammates don't think I don't care. It is essential however, to show you care about what is going on in the game. That is also another crowd control technique. Like I said, middle competition is good and bad. It can be a lot of fun, but it can also turn sour really quick.
I take back what I said before about the three types of competition. The last type isn't just bad, it is the absolute worst type of competition!! For this I will separate into a men's and women's subject. Both need to be addressed because sadly, both are intertwined. In case you haven't guessed it, the worst competition comes from relationships, or the start of relationships.
WOMEN- It is essential for you to not play with a guy. First off, guys have no idea what is happening in the first place. Secondly, it is just completely unnecessary! So ladies, if there is another guy, be up front. Say there is another guy, don't lead anyone on. It's important to know who else is out there. If the guy really likes you, he'll stay around and keep talking to you. Why? Beats me, that's just how we are! But, the absolute worst thing you could do to another guy is to act like nothing is going on. And by that I mean, acting like there isn't another guy that you will most likely run back to after you go to dinner. If the guy wants to know something, he'll ask around, we're aren't that stupid. Chances are the guy will find out sooner or later, and it's important ladies, for him to hear it from you sooner rather than later. If you are lucky, he'll hang around, chances are, well I have no idea because we all different!
MEN- Do right. That is my motto in life. What do I mean by that? I mean do whatever it is you think is right. If a girl tells you there is another guy, there are two ways to handle it. First Option: Talk to her! You need to hear it from her. But, understand that once you talk to her, things will be different. Once you talk to her, you two will either be further on the path to a relationship or you will be even more distant than you were before you two even knew each other. If the latter happens, don't expect that to change down the road when the guy is out of the picture. Second Option: Be proactive! If you choose to go this route, there are repercussions. You can pour your heart out to the girl, and one of two things will happen. She will be accepting and choose you. Or, she could completely reject you. Just as long as you know, if you choose this option, its make it or break it, up or down, red light green light.
Personally, I don't know which is the right choice. I think you have to be proactive, but you also need to talk to her. Let's be honest, no girl is actually torn between two guys. Once you get to that point, you have essentially already lost. It's you or him, and now you're competing. If you have to compete for someone, all hope is lost. Competition in relationships never work. Some people respond well to competition, and some people completely shut down. In my opinion guys, although I know this is unbelievably hard to, if there is another guy... sure, say something, talk about it, but then you have to move on. You can't sit and wait for something that has left and is never coming back. First off, if she doesn't choose you from the start and allows another guy to come in, she doesn't deserve you. You were there, but obviously you aren't good enough. Well, here is what I say. Don't put yourselves in a position to get hurt. End of story, problem solved. If you don't put yourself in that position in the first place, this won't happen.
Of course, roles could be reversed....
Next post I will be talking about "just" nice guys...
An, on the bubble scenario occurs with the wake-up call. Some people respond extremely well to cold water in the morning, I am not one of those people. My showers have to hot! This is why this scenario is on the bubble. Some people like it, others hate it... it's your call!
Now for the non-forced cold showers. These are good, but there is a complete art to having a good shower. For instance, say you are sweating really bad, and you really need a cold shower because you are hot. When you get in the shower, you have to start on hot, and then slowly move colder and colder. Granted you might be hot for the first few minutes, but if you were to turn the cold on right from the start, then you will be so shocked and you won't take a correct shower. For half the shower, you're probably still sweating, but it will be ok, because the colder you get, your body temperature will go down. So, here's the kicker... your shower needs to last at least 10-15 minutes to allow ample time for decreasing body temp. When you find a good cold temperature, keep it there. The water should not be to the point of coldness you are struggling to breath. Find a good temp, and keep it there. Do your cleaning, but don't rush! Everyone is always in a rush nowadays, and when you're taking a shower like this, you cannot rush! Also, the water has to be cold enough to stop your sweating because once you get out of the shower, you don't want to still be sweating. And another thing, the water can't be to the point where it's so cold, you're shivering during and after the shower, because then you cannot enjoy the sacred shower.
Hopefully after reading that, you will be fully prepared for the next time you are either forced, or in need of a cold shower.
DISCLAIMER: If it doesn't work, don't hate on me!
Now for the serious subject...
I talked a little bit about competition in my last post, but I feel competition is such a huge thing, I need to go more in depth. There is good competition, for lack of a better word there is middle competition, and there is bad competition.
We'll start with the good competition. Competition is such a huge part of life! There is competition every where you look. Business is a competition, your sports teams are competitive, and you compete for jobs by going through school and trying to prove you are the best person for a job. These are all good competition! It is perfectly acceptable in each these cases, to go out and prove to others who you are. It's okay to show others you're the best in these situations. Actually, it's more than okay!
Middle competition is good and bad. If you are with your friends, playing a game, no matter what game it is, you can one of two ways... The first, be competitive, but not overly competitive! You can't be the first one to dive for a ball. I repeat: YOU CAN'T BE THE FIRST PERSON TO DIVE FOR A BALL. It just isn't right. If you are the first one to dive, you come off as way too competitive, even if people are laughing, they know you're way too competitive. You also can't get mad. What I like to do now, as I am growing up, is crowd control. I try not to let myself get upset over a silly little game. If I mess up, I say I'm sorry so my teammates don't think I don't care. It is essential however, to show you care about what is going on in the game. That is also another crowd control technique. Like I said, middle competition is good and bad. It can be a lot of fun, but it can also turn sour really quick.
I take back what I said before about the three types of competition. The last type isn't just bad, it is the absolute worst type of competition!! For this I will separate into a men's and women's subject. Both need to be addressed because sadly, both are intertwined. In case you haven't guessed it, the worst competition comes from relationships, or the start of relationships.
WOMEN- It is essential for you to not play with a guy. First off, guys have no idea what is happening in the first place. Secondly, it is just completely unnecessary! So ladies, if there is another guy, be up front. Say there is another guy, don't lead anyone on. It's important to know who else is out there. If the guy really likes you, he'll stay around and keep talking to you. Why? Beats me, that's just how we are! But, the absolute worst thing you could do to another guy is to act like nothing is going on. And by that I mean, acting like there isn't another guy that you will most likely run back to after you go to dinner. If the guy wants to know something, he'll ask around, we're aren't that stupid. Chances are the guy will find out sooner or later, and it's important ladies, for him to hear it from you sooner rather than later. If you are lucky, he'll hang around, chances are, well I have no idea because we all different!
MEN- Do right. That is my motto in life. What do I mean by that? I mean do whatever it is you think is right. If a girl tells you there is another guy, there are two ways to handle it. First Option: Talk to her! You need to hear it from her. But, understand that once you talk to her, things will be different. Once you talk to her, you two will either be further on the path to a relationship or you will be even more distant than you were before you two even knew each other. If the latter happens, don't expect that to change down the road when the guy is out of the picture. Second Option: Be proactive! If you choose to go this route, there are repercussions. You can pour your heart out to the girl, and one of two things will happen. She will be accepting and choose you. Or, she could completely reject you. Just as long as you know, if you choose this option, its make it or break it, up or down, red light green light.
Personally, I don't know which is the right choice. I think you have to be proactive, but you also need to talk to her. Let's be honest, no girl is actually torn between two guys. Once you get to that point, you have essentially already lost. It's you or him, and now you're competing. If you have to compete for someone, all hope is lost. Competition in relationships never work. Some people respond well to competition, and some people completely shut down. In my opinion guys, although I know this is unbelievably hard to, if there is another guy... sure, say something, talk about it, but then you have to move on. You can't sit and wait for something that has left and is never coming back. First off, if she doesn't choose you from the start and allows another guy to come in, she doesn't deserve you. You were there, but obviously you aren't good enough. Well, here is what I say. Don't put yourselves in a position to get hurt. End of story, problem solved. If you don't put yourself in that position in the first place, this won't happen.
Of course, roles could be reversed....
Next post I will be talking about "just" nice guys...
May 30, 2010
"Streak"-ing
So when is a streak, not a streak anymore? Isn't it possible to just hit a great form and play like for an extended amount of time? Take the Reds for example. Are they streaking right now? Are they only good during this so called streak? The answer is quite simple no! To be honest, the Reds are a good baseball team. They are playing as well as I expected them to be playing. The have a really young nucleus and it was only a matter of time before they started playing this well together. To me, the Reds were on a winning streak to make it to .500. Now, they are just good. Their morale is up, everyone is hitting, pitchers are pitching...with the exception of Nick Masset. Side note on Masset: I'm assuming it is only a matter of time before he gets sent down to Triple-A Louisville.
So, please stop saying the Reds are streaking! Were they at one point? YES Are they now? NO! They are just good.
Now, on to a more serious subject....
Risk- exposure to the chance of injury or loss; a hazard or dangerous chance: It's not worth the risk.
That is the definition of risk above. Why in the world would anyone want to do that? Nothing about that definition shows promise. If you find yourself in a situation where you need to take a risk, for example with a girl, you have already lost! At that point, all hope is lost!! Time for some advice: Get to a point with whomever it is you like, where asking to do something isn't taking a risk. Once you hit that point, you win in the game of life! Alright, that may be a bit exaggerated, but seriously, you do win the game. Let's be honest, it is a game. It's a big game, with little games in between. And once you reach that point, the hard work is done, and you are smooth sailing. The problem: getting to that point. The solution: This was hard for me to think of, but I think the most important thing you need to get to that point is honesty! Maybe even not honesty with the other person, but honesty within yourself. By that I mean, you have to know who you are, what you are looking for, and most importantly what you want. There is a common factor between each segment of the last sentence. YOU. It really isn't about the other person, things will fall into place, insert cliche comment here.... if it's meant to be. It really is about yourself, your own person, and who you are.
Oh, and another thing! Competition sucks! If you have to compete, drop out of the race, it's not worth it! Move on, and find someone who wants you... that is all
So, please stop saying the Reds are streaking! Were they at one point? YES Are they now? NO! They are just good.
Now, on to a more serious subject....
Risk- exposure to the chance of injury or loss; a hazard or dangerous chance: It's not worth the risk.
That is the definition of risk above. Why in the world would anyone want to do that? Nothing about that definition shows promise. If you find yourself in a situation where you need to take a risk, for example with a girl, you have already lost! At that point, all hope is lost!! Time for some advice: Get to a point with whomever it is you like, where asking to do something isn't taking a risk. Once you hit that point, you win in the game of life! Alright, that may be a bit exaggerated, but seriously, you do win the game. Let's be honest, it is a game. It's a big game, with little games in between. And once you reach that point, the hard work is done, and you are smooth sailing. The problem: getting to that point. The solution: This was hard for me to think of, but I think the most important thing you need to get to that point is honesty! Maybe even not honesty with the other person, but honesty within yourself. By that I mean, you have to know who you are, what you are looking for, and most importantly what you want. There is a common factor between each segment of the last sentence. YOU. It really isn't about the other person, things will fall into place, insert cliche comment here.... if it's meant to be. It really is about yourself, your own person, and who you are.
Oh, and another thing! Competition sucks! If you have to compete, drop out of the race, it's not worth it! Move on, and find someone who wants you... that is all
May 27, 2010
The Milk Dynasty
Well, it's quite some time since the last post, and I am bringing bad news along with a new post. It's pretty clear, at least for me to see, that the idea of 'The Walk' was going to crash and burn, though I didn't think it would burnout as soon as it did. So, I am discontinuing the walk conversations because since the last post, I haven't taken one single walk.
What have I been doing instead of posting, you ask? Not much of anything really. I have been trying to watch as many movies as possible. I am really getting into music too. I find myself slowly moving away from watching tv, and listening to more music.
I am really going to make an effort this time to stay on top of my game with this blog. My recent posts haven't been held at the same standard as the posts from when I first started this thing, and that will change, starting now. I will now go back, or at least try to go back to the writing style used when I first started.
This post, I would like to talk about milk. Yes, milk. Milk comes in all different sizes, and kinds. There is the pint, half-gallon, and the full gallon. Milk is 2%, 1%, skim, soy, and even chocolate. Milk is greatly taken for granted, by just about everyone I know. What does milk do? The real question is what doesn't milk do. It's the best part of cereal, aside from the cereal itself. Milk makes your bones strong. And, milk is a dipper. Yea, cookies, oreos, and even donuts at times. Just think, if there was not any milk, there is nothing. Milk is everything!
I would talk about BP, but I think they have been bashed enough for their recent wrongdoings.
Weak post this time, I know. I apologize, but be on the lookout for more frequent posts, and better posts.
What have I been doing instead of posting, you ask? Not much of anything really. I have been trying to watch as many movies as possible. I am really getting into music too. I find myself slowly moving away from watching tv, and listening to more music.
I am really going to make an effort this time to stay on top of my game with this blog. My recent posts haven't been held at the same standard as the posts from when I first started this thing, and that will change, starting now. I will now go back, or at least try to go back to the writing style used when I first started.
This post, I would like to talk about milk. Yes, milk. Milk comes in all different sizes, and kinds. There is the pint, half-gallon, and the full gallon. Milk is 2%, 1%, skim, soy, and even chocolate. Milk is greatly taken for granted, by just about everyone I know. What does milk do? The real question is what doesn't milk do. It's the best part of cereal, aside from the cereal itself. Milk makes your bones strong. And, milk is a dipper. Yea, cookies, oreos, and even donuts at times. Just think, if there was not any milk, there is nothing. Milk is everything!
I would talk about BP, but I think they have been bashed enough for their recent wrongdoings.
Weak post this time, I know. I apologize, but be on the lookout for more frequent posts, and better posts.
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